Planning a wedding is equally one of the most exciting and stressful times of your life. With sites like Pinterest and Instagram sharing every wedding trend from couples kissing in cowboy boots to couples cutting into a 10-tier cake with a flaming sword, couples feel pressured to make their day one to remember.
What these sites won't tell you is that even the most rustic burlap-and-mason-jar wedding can break the bank when you start adding in all of the little designer details. By the time you've recreated that intricate table decor (times 15) you're out thousands of dollars.
In fact, apart from good music and decent food, most guests don't actually notice the details. If you're trying to put together a wedding without taking a second mortgage on your home, consider saving time and money by foregoing the 12 following things that your guests really don't care about:
1) Cheesy Wedding Favors
You’re feeding them. You have liquor & awesome music. They’ll just be forgotten on the table anyway. Yes, we tend to think anything customized with our name and wedding date are cute and must-have accessories; but most guests don’t. Opt out of wedding favors and guess how many guests will ask where their favor is? That’s right….zero.
2) Save the Dates
Just tell people. Send Invites. Get RSVP’s (see #4). They’ll just end up in the trash, probably even before your wedding day. Set up a wedding website & send out save the dates online. You’ll save a tone on postage too!
3) Ceremony Programs
They start on the seats, they end up on the seats, or the ground. Only your mothers & grandmothers will keep them.
4) RSVP Cards
RSVP cards are a formal way for guests to reply to your wedding. But most people don’t know how to fill them out, or forget to turn them in. As the host, you end up paying for the cards… and the postage. Then, you have to manually track the responses (and hope you don’t lose them). If you’re going to build a wedding website (which most wedding planning sites like The Knot and Wedding Wire offer for free), use their Guest Tracking Tool. You upload your list of guests by party, then your guests RSVP on your website and your guest list is automatically updated online and in the app. This is a life saver!
5) Customized Aisle Runners
Aisle runners are a nice accent to your wedding aisle. They define the aisle, protect the brides dress from dragging on the floor & they’re just pretty! Customized runners can get pricy fast & they just end up in the trash after the ceremony. Save some of your budget by using a plain runner, toss some beautiful rose petals on the aisle & call it a day.
6) Customized Monogramed Robes for Your Bridal Party
Your bridal party will look just as cute & have just as much fun in unmonogramed matching
t-shirts in your wedding colors.
7) Expensive Champagne
Most people don’t know Dom Perignon from Korbel. Save a considerable amount by going for a cheaper brand for the guests, but do get a nice bottle for your private toast in the evening.
Tip: There’s no law that you must toast with champagne, use a nice white wine instead.
8) Large Bridal Party
Save your friends money & yourself too! Sure you want everyone to be in your wedding, but the costs add up quickly.
These are the costs that the couple should cover for their attendants:
* Bridesmaid's flowers & men’s boutonnieres
* Lodging for out-of-town attendants
* Transportation for the bridal party to ceremony and reception
* Thank you gifts to attendants
* Bridesmaids' luncheon & groomsmen’s dinner
* Hair and makeup
* Manicures & Pedi’s
9) Small Children in the Bridal Party.
You love kids, but you've decided they don't fit in at your wedding. That's okay! You don't have to invite kids to be in your wedding.
Let’s be honest about this. To the average small child, weddings are a complete bore. They have to spend hours hanging around in uncomfortable fancy clothes. Small children get tired & then start crying, or worse throw themselves down in the middle of the aisle during your processional. Unless you find that adorable, it’s better to skip the babies toddling down the aisle.
10) Disposable Cameras.
Everyone has an iPhone or digital camera & they’re annoying enough! Disposable cameras are expensive (both the cameras themselves and developing the film). A better approach is to create an official wedding hashtag and ask guests to use it when they share their photos on social media. People can use their own smartphones (which pretty much everyone has) and you will have full access to their candid pictures.
11) Multiple Wedding Dresses
It’s becoming more and more of a trend to splurge on not one, but two (or three!) wedding gowns for your big day. But if you’re looking to cut on costs, this is probably not where you should be spending your extra dough. This can be a big drain on the wedding budget and such a hard thing to discard if it’s never used. Instead, put all of your pennies into one jar for that one special dress you only get to wear for one night.
12) Fancy Centerpieces
Although table decorations and centerpieces enhance the overall look of your wedding, most guests won't remember whether you used peonies or hydrangeas, or if the votives were set in gold mercury glass or Victorian amber candle holders. What they do care about is being able to see what’s going on and talk to their table mates over dinner. If all you can swing is clean tablecloths, farmers market flowers, a little greenery and some twinkling votive candles, no one will bat an eye. Your guests just want an inviting place to sit, eat, sip and laugh.
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